Month: July 2025

Not Everyone Deserves a Place in Your Garden

The six types of people listed below? They don’t belong in your inner circle.
They drain your energy, sow confusion, and cloud your peace of mind.
They are weeds. Pull them out!

  1. The ones who insult you but laugh it off as a “joke.”
  2. The ones who never own their mistakes but blame you every time.
  3. The ones who say they want the best for you… then quietly sabotage your progress.
  4. The ones whose actions never match their words.
  5. The ones who plant seeds of doubt in the name of “concern.”
  6. The ones who always have an excuse, no matter how much damage they cause.

Instead, tend to your flowers. Flowers are the people who:

  1. are kind.
  2. take responsibility.
  3. support your growth.
  4. show up.
  5. speak truthfully.
  6. genuinely want to see you bloom.

Fill your life the way you would fill a beautiful garden: with love, honesty, and care.

Fierce, Faithful, and Full of Life

During my battle with cancer, I met so many brave women fighting the same fight.

People often said things like, “You’ve got this!” or “You’re a fighter — God has plans for you.” But what does that imply about the women who didn’t survive? That they lacked strength? Faith? Determination?

Let me be clear: they did not. They most certainly did not.

They were fierce, faithful, and full of life. Many were mothers, daughters, wives, friends — deeply loved and needed. They fought with everything they had. And still, they died.

Meanwhile, I lived. No children. No spouse. No parents depending on me. And I often wonder — why me? Their loss left gaping holes in the world. Mine wouldn’t have.

I’ve been told, “God has a purpose for you.” But I’m not so high-and-mighty as to believe my survival means I mattered more.  If anything, I mattered less.

I don’t understand why some live and others don’t. I doubt I’ll ever understand. But this I do know: those women didn’t lose their lives because they were weak or unworthy. They were extraordinary.

I try to believe the universe unfolds as it should — even when it breaks my heart and leaves my soul utterly shaken.  Sometimes, it is easier to believe than at other times.