When someone is struggling with a chronic illness, or the associated mental health issues that come from having an incurable illness, chronic pain, loss of income and lifestyle, losing their purpose in life, and having to start over in many cases, what they need is your compassion and empathy.
Telling them things like “Oh, you’ll be fine!” or “God wouldn’t give you anything you can’t handle!” is not really helpful. When you say things like this, you may make yourself feel better, but you aren’t making them feel better. Instead, you are minimizing their condition and their concerns.
Changing the subject (so they won’t dwell on it) is not useful. Believe me, they are already dwelling on it! Chronic pain makes them dwell on it, even if they don’t show it.
Offering them any advice when you have absolutely no knowledge about their chronic condition is not only unhelpful, but it can also be dangerous!
What they need most is a safe place to express their concerns, their fears, their frustrations, without having to hold back. They need to be included. Most of all, they need to be heard, loved, and supported.
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