–>May you find the courage to disappoint people who expect more from you than they are willing to give in return.
–>May you find the courage to disappoint people who only support you when it is convenient for them.
–>May you find the courage to disappoint people who value what you do for them more than they value you.
–>May you find the courage to disappoint people who expect you to sacrifice your own well-being to keep them comfortable.
Some people are perfectly comfortable with you as long as you remain the person they have always known and never grow or change in ways that make them uncomfortable. They may become angry when you finally set a boundary, even when their own past behavior is the reason that boundary became necessary. They may expect unlimited access to your time, attention, and energy while somehow never having those same things available when you are the one who needs them.
There are also people who expect you to continue forgiving the same behavior over and over because changing their behavior would be far less convenient than expecting you to keep accepting it. They may have liked you better when you stayed quiet, overlooked things, made excuses for them, or accepted far less than you deserved from the relationship. Sometimes people are uncomfortable with your growth simply because the person you used to be was easier for them.
You are allowed to grow and change as you learn from your experiences, and you are allowed to decide that something you once tolerated is no longer acceptable. You can set boundaries, change the nature of a relationship, or simply say no without providing a dissertation explaining why you have earned the right to do so.
Which is worse: being alone, or being with someone who leaves you feeling alone because they are not there when you need them, who always seems to make their own needs the priority, and who accepts everything you give while rarely considering your feelings, or what it’s costing you?
Sometimes disappointing someone else simply means that you’ve finally stopped disappointing yourself.
